Have you ever given much thought to the world in which our children live? They are under authority all day long! Do this! Don’t do that! They are constantly to be in subjection to you, Mom and Dad; and, on occasion, they are not only going to disagree with you, they are going to disobey you. Thus the stage is now set for a clashing of the wills. These clashes are not always necessary. Some of them, if not most of them, could easily be avoided by applying a few simple principles. These principles also apply to an adult’s relationship with other adults.
1. Be easily pleased. Children automatically put up their defenses when they know that a parent is seldom pleased with what they do. Let your children know when they please you. (Mark 1:11)
2. Do not be argumentative. DO NOT put yourself in a position of arguing with your child. If children know you will argue with them, you have set the stage for a clash of the wills. Remember, you are the parent; they are the child. Arguing is not allowed. (Ecclesiastes 10:12)
3. Major on the majors; minor on the minors. Keep things in perspective. Do not make major issues out of non-essential ones. (Matthew 23:24)
4. Avoid criticism. When correcting your child, criticism is certainly not necessary. When you criticize, you are building resentment instead of respect…and again, you are setting the stage for a clash of the wills. (Ephesians 6:4)
5. Set the right example. If you have a tendency to clash wills with those over you, then you are setting the wrong example for your children. (Galatians 6:7)
Now, if it is necessary to discipline your children,
do so; but do avoid the unnecessary clash of the wills. Remember, as parents, our goal is to mold
them into the image of God, not into “our image.”
✞ Apply the above principles.
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