If your child feels inadequate, they are in good company. Paul felt inadequate as well, so did Joshua, and the list could go on and on. If your child has feelings of inadequacy, read on.
The child who battles with feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt will usually respond in one of five ways.
One of the most common ways in which one deals with their feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt is by surrendering. The individual who chooses this approach has concluded that he is a failure. Having accepted his worthlessness, he attempts to guard his wounded ego from further damage by drawing into a shell of silence and loneliness. This person never initiates a conversation; he never enters contests or campaigns; he is afraid to ask a young lady out on a “date.” This person will never defend his honor when trampled on by others. He has indeed surrendered.
Every school classroom is populated with children who have admitted defeat to themselves. They quietly sit in silence. Their peers simply think they are shy. The child who lives a life of surrender is usually misjudged in two ways. Since he is quiet and unresponsive, some assume he is “snobbish.” Imagine that! The child who thinks so little of himself is assumed by his peers to think too much of himself. Secondly, because the surrendered child seldom speaks, it is assumed he is not a “thinker,” that he lives in a world of his own, which is not true. The child with feelings of inadequacy and self-doubt has found safety in “being quiet.”
When the surrendered child reaches adulthood, he will find his friend in “a bottle” (alcohol). If they do not meet someone of the opposite sex, they become controlling because of the lack of confidence in their ability to “keep them” so they turn to intimidation to keep from losing them.The answer for the “surrenderer” is found in the words of Paul in II Corinthians 12:10, “for when I am weak, then am I strong.” Pray for our kids, especially our surrenderers.
What to do:
✞ Teach your child to surrender to God, not the flesh.
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