There are five principles as parents that can help you to help your young person through the sometimes turbulent dating years.
First of all, there is the purpose of dating. The purpose of dating can be summed up in this little saying, “The reason you date is to find a mate.” In Proverbs 18:22a we are told, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing.” So the purpose of dating is not simply to have “fun” but to find God’s mate for your life.
Secondly, there should be purity in the dating process. The youth today are under pressure to be impure. For this reason, all “dating” should be out in the open and not “behind closed doors.” Always remember, petting never stops with petting. We are told in II Timothy 2:22 to “Flee...youthful lusts” – no touching. Remember, guys are stimulated by sight (girls, dress modestly), girls are stimulated by touch – no touching.
Thirdly, there is such a push today to date. Now, I ask you, what is the purpose of dating? To find a mate. So I ask you, do you want your 13-year-old looking for a mate? The age they begin to date is the age they should be looking for a mate.
Fourthly, the young man should be, for lack of a better word, the aggressor in the relationship. The girl should never be the one calling the guy and being aggressive. Remember, Proverbs 18:22, “Whoso findeth a wife...” Teach the young man to be the leader in the relationship.
Fifthly, the parents should go out with the couple: be together. No, you didn’t read that wrong. Have dad talk with the young man. Be the teacher of how to correctly date or court.
I realize this may sound old-fashioned to you, and it may well be. But in 2020, the number of unwed mothers in
✞ Let your teens know in advance what your dating principles are and carry them out with love.
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